Friday 20 July 2012

Medication Reactions-Friends And Family-Dementia Symptoms

When the caregiver develops dementia

If you find yourself exhibiting disturbing symptoms that you notice yourself, or friends and family gently bring up to you, don't immediately decide that you, too, have dementia. Other issues that can make you feel as though you are having dementia symptoms are medication reactions or interactions, infections and lack of sleep. read more..

Tag Sale-Donation

$270 raised for Alzheimer's Association

The final tally of how much I raised with my tag sale (and related donations) is $270.  That includes a $50 check a guy brought, and a few other cash-in-the-jar donations.  I was hoping for twice that.  But it's better than nothing.  I ended up NOT taking the money I spent on the ad back, because the total was so low, so you can throw in my $30 worth of ads as part of my donation!
"Had a Dad" Alzheimer's Blog Gevera Bert Piedmont })i({Thank you for visiting! read more..

Saturday 14 July 2012

Tea Shop-Mother

Looking for Meaning Behind the Words

She told us that she used to want to run her head into a brick wall when her mother started repeating the same story over and over.
By Tom and Karen Brenner
Alzheimer's Reading Room
c. 1785There is wonderful little tea shop that opened near us, and I have been visiting it with friends regularly.
A month or so ago, I met an old acquaintance there; she wanted to learn more about the work that Tom and I do using the Montessori Method to help people living with Alzheimer’s.
Her mother was recently diagnosed with Alzheimer’s and she wanted to get some tips on how to better help her mom.
As I was paying the owner of the tea shop that day, she looked up at me with tears in her eyes and told me that she had overheard some of our conversation about Alzheimer’s. Her mother, too, was living with Alzheimer’s and the entire family was in great distress and feeling at a loss about how to help her mom. We talked for a few minutes, and I was only able to say a few things to the tea shop owner. I emphasized to her that she should be in the moment with her mom, and learn to go with her mom’s thought processes as they were at that moment.
I also encouraged her to look for the meaning behind the words that her mother might say, especially when her mother repeated the same thought or the same story over and over. I told her that sometimes people living with Alzheimer’s say the same things over and over because they can’t find the words they want to express themselves, but they need very much to share some emotion, or some memory. I told the tea shop owner to listen carefully to what her mom said and validate the emotions or the feelings behind the words.
A couple of weeks later, Tom and I found ourselves with a few minutes to spare before an appointment, so I suggested that we have tea in the new tea shop. Tom had never been there before, and I thought he would like it.
The tea shop owner came over to talk to us about her mother and she then told us that the simple ideas that I had shared with her on my earlier visit had changed her life!
She told us that she used to want to run her head into a brick wall when her mother started repeating the same story over and over, but now she listens carefully, trying to find the meaning behind the repetitive words. She told us that recently her mother was repeating a story about her childhood. The tea shop owner told her mom that she understood that her mother must have had a wonderful childhood, and that she must have been very happy then. The owner told us that her mother got a huge smile on her face, and was so pleased that her daughter understood her.
It is a wonderful thing to go into a tea shop to enjoy a cup of tea and a scone and to come out of the shop knowing that you have changed someone’s life for the better.
By the way, the tea and scones are wonderful, and the owner is thinking of holding teas for caregivers as a way to help other people who are caring for loved ones with Alzheimer’s.
Tom and Karen Brenner are Montessori Gerontologists, researchers, consultants, trainers and writers dedicated to working for culture change in the field of aging. Tom is a gerontologist and has specialized in creating and researching dementia specific training programs. Karen Brenner is a Montessori educator and has specialized in working with children who are deaf or communication disordered. They have been published in magazines and journals both in the US and internationally. Learn more about Tom and Karen at Brenner Pathways.
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Monday 9 July 2012

Another award...

Another award...

Best Alzheimer's Blogs
Just won another award for this blog. Except that they think I'm a guy for some reason.
Had a Dad: The impetus of this blog was simple: to provide a space for a son whose father was struggling with Alzheimer's. His father has recently passed on, yet he continues to vent here.
Source: Top 50 Alzheimer's Blogs
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Thursday 5 July 2012

Framingham Offspring Study-Vitamin B12 Deficiency-Increase Memory-Shanghai, China

Tai Chi shown to boost brain size, increase memory in Chinese seniors

Could non-aerobic exercise help prevent Alzheimer’s and other dementia? Possibly. A recent article in The Atlantic reported on a study involving a group of seniors residing in Shanghai, China and the practice of the ancient art of tai chi as a way to prevent Alzheimer’s. read more..

Alzheimer's and Vitamin B12 Deficiency

The Framingham Offspring Study found that Vitamin B12 Deficiency is a big problem. How bad? As many as forty percent of the population might be at risk of a vitamin B12 deficiency.By Bob...
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Homeward Bound

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Carolyn Brent-Family

Author Carolyn Brent on Aging Parents, Caregiving Issues, Family Relationships

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